When sin is involved, especially sexual sin, shame is the result. That is how God protects His gift of sexuality. It is similar to the warning light in your car that alerts you to the fact something is wrong, and that you need to take heed. When people cross God’s sexual boundary, shame is the result.
Shame is like a huge wall between us and God, blocking our intimacy with Him. It alters all of our primary relationships. It changes how we think God feels about us. It colors every interaction we have with people because we are afraid they might know the truth about us. It even changes how we see ourselves. Shame takes a son or daughter of God and turns them into a slave. Shame puts people on a treadmill of obligation as they attempt to work off the wrongs they have done.
SHAME ATTEMPTS TO SPEAK TO OUR IDENTITY
If the devil can convince us that we are not children of God, then he can sidetrack us from our destiny.
When Jesus was baptized, He heard the Father say, “This is my beloved son with whom I am well pleased” Identity! Interestingly, Jesus did not preach one message, heal one sick person until He first heard of his true identity. We can only fulfill our destiny to the extent that we believe our God-given identity.
SHAME TRIES TO LURE US OUT OF OUR IDENTITY
After his baptism, Jesus was led out into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. Two times, the devil attacked Jesus’ identity when he challenged Him, saying, “If you are the Son of God, turn these stones into bread.” And then, “If you are the Son of God, jump off of the Temple’s roof.”
Notice what’s common here? Exactly! It’s Jesus’ identity that the enemy was going after. The enemy was trying to tempt Jesus into proving his identity because he knew that if Jesus took the challenge, it would demonstrate that He did not really believe who He is. Moreover, He would have to spend the rest of His life proving His identity over and over. Knowing our God-given identity stops us from getting approval by performance.
As humans, we tend to build scales on which we measure the good and the bad in our lives. We are forever hoping to put more on the better version of us to balance out the bad—the history we are ashamed of. God wants to whack those scales and gently put His cross in front of us and say, “You can’t do it. There’s nothing you can do to earn your way back to Me. That is why My Son Jesus came.” God’s design for us is that we would live with no shame. He wants to break it off of our lives.
The apostle Paul also states in Ephesians 2:10 that, “We are saved by grace, not of a performance of our works, it is a gift of God so that no one can boast.” That means you cannot earn your worth in the face of God. We are worthy of God’s love because of His grace – nothing more or nothing less!
Besides, we were God’s treasures before we ever became Christians – “While we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8).” When God created Adam and Eve, He said that they were “good;” they had inherent worth – worthiness – His treasures.
Every time you hear shame messages left on your mental voice mail, erase them with gratitude. Thankfulness prepares the way for a breakthrough.
You say, ”Thank you, Lord, because of what you have done on the cross I am accepted”.
You say, ”I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus”.
You say, ”Not of my works but by Your grace I am free”.
Keep declaring until the declaring turns into believing and your beliefs become the inner voice that you navigate to.
We hope this post helps you to break the bondage of Shame that you have been dwelling in.
Be looking for some more important practical tips on how to live a shame-free life coming soon!