Accountability doesn’t involve controlling, if it’s that, well, it’s not freedom. Accountability in simple terms means giving an account of the ability that a person has been steward with. Accountability is having someone you can rely on, trusting that through thick and thin the person is there loving and empowering you in all your messes and struggles, who you can be dependent on and whom you can honour for the very example they have set in your life. It also involves protection and guidance in navigating the right choices you make in your life.
“Take good counsel and accept correction— that’s the way to live wisely and well.”
Proverbs 19:20 MSG
Might be wondering what does Accountability has anything to do with the relationship?
Well.. well.. well..
In a relationship, it’s a healthy decision to go out and take every possible help we can get. One of the biggest challenges that I faced was to be accountable to the leader about my relationship life. Hebrews talks about how the Lord disciplines those He loves, and if you’re not disciplined you’re an illegitimate child and you’re not actually considered as a true son or daughter. We need a generation mindset shift where Accountability, Discipline word wouldn’t be something to be scared of. Instead of thinking that someone is navigating your life – – this is somebody who is partnering alongside and making sure that you achieve the goal you are looking ahead. A successful marriage can only be built on a healthy foundation that has been built during our single life. Accountability is an invitation to someone who is filled with wisdom and more experienced than me, which will help my relationship flourish.
If you are in a relationship, the integral part is to find a married couple that you are inspired by. If you have a married couple that you can be connected with by seeking help for both and guidance in every step of your relationship life. A couple, you can be totally honest with even in times of your relationship struggles – arguments, sexuality, emotions and finance. There are times when friends won’t be able to discuss this matter as they’re also struggling in their relationship. Friends start trying to relate their situation more than strengthening, at times. You need to find a couple that is willing to give you freely, strengthening you and pouring into your life. The key is someone you can trust, but that shouldn’t allow you to make excuses in times of your failure. It’s not just about sex before marriage, it’s about building healthy relationship, protecting each other, sharpening each other in areas as you develop your relationship.
It’s important that you keep these accountability partners matched with the same gender. A man to a man, and a woman to a woman. You must share your vision that you as a partner want to pursue with the couple you are accountable with. They can help you to keep a track on your core values, could remind you of your identity, why there is a need to fight for purity, and what you’re saving for the moment when it gets difficult.
We need to find the righteous people who will tell us what we need to hear, not just what we want to hear. Accepting correction is a tough journey to go with but it’s trust and love that will make it possible.
“Do everything with Love” 2 Corinthians 16:14
If you’re reading this and thinking, “Boy, I’ve already messed up my relationship. We’re already years into our relationship yet we don’t have people who are accountable for us/me. “ It’s never too late to start the conversation, find a couple, have the courage to be honest in your ups and downs and set boundaries in your relationship with your partner.
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