Some people say masturbation is normal and amoral, others contend that masturbation can be either amoral or immoral, and still others believe masturbation is always immoral.
How might we assess these various opinions?
First, as Christians, we certainly wouldn’t align with the first view that masturbation is always amoral. We may agree that it’s normal, but that doesn’t make it amoral. Obviously, when lust enters the picture, we’re dealing with a real moral issue.
The second view states that masturbation can either be amoral or immoral. What do I mean by this? Some would argue that masturbation is permissible for the pre-married individual as long as they don’t lust after another person. Some believe it’s okay for a man, in particular, to masturbate in order to release a semen buildup, assuming he doesn’t lust in the process. Just because our body feels the need for a certain type of release doesn’t mean we should cave in our desires. As humans, we have many desires, and nothing will erode our discipline quicker than constantly giving in to those desires.
The third view stresses on talking that masturbation is always wrong. It’s a true moral and identity issue. While I can totally understand how a prepubescent child may have innocently masturbated and even continued to do so without lusting to sexual images into puberty, if they continue with this behaviour, my fear is that it will only be a matter of time before they enter into puberty and masturbate to the imagination of their lusts. When this happens the act is no longer innocent. A shift has taken place that can become a lifelong habit of objectifying other human beings through masturbation.
With these thoughts in mind, let me offer you something that is really important.
MASTURBATION INDICATES LACK OF SELF-CONTROL
According to the Bible, self-control is a virtue and is even described as a fruit of the Spirit “But the fruit produced by the Holy Spirit within you is….a life full of virtue and strength of spirit. Against such things there is no law” (Galatians 5:22-23 emphasis added)
What does that mean? It means, Nothing works against the fruit of the Spirit. When you actually start practicing the fruit of the Spirit by living a life that is full of virtue and self-control nothing can work against you. Many people are controlled by their next episode of masturbation but as you start practicing the fruit of Spirit by allowing Holy-Spirit to work within you, you will be able to break the cycle of masturbation. The nature of God is to set you free from masturbation. By moving in the fruit of Spirit you can affect the enemy and release yourself in power in the same time. You can dismay the enemy with your self-control. You can dis-hearten the enemy with your purity. When you practice godliness and self-control, you are on a high-ground of being Christ-like and you become over-comer and more than the conquerer. You cannot continue to surrender your identity to negative emotions. Here is the two words for you “Stop it!”.
What particular fruit of the Spirit is God developing in you at this time? Particularly for me, when God wants to develop an aspect of His nature in my life He would just says “Hey, this(Godliness) is what I want you to learn about me for the next 6 months” and I go yahoo! thinking it’s going to be right there on the next door but instead it was the promise that He spoke over me. Then the following day I encountered several group of people who was indulging in Pornography, Sexual immorality etc. Every time I met them they invited me to join them and it took me to a place of being tempted but as I started this journey I didn’t know that little by little I was growing in Godliness and Purity. God brought the most difficult people in my life with whom I had to practice to say “No” and that is the fruit of Self-control and whenever the desire arouse I had to give it to God and remind myself of my core values.
Paul also states in Romans where sin abounds grace super abounds.
What does that mean?
It means, there is no place you can go where God’s grace can’t find you. There is no place where you can hide where God’ love can’t see. There is no place you can fall where God’s arms can’t catch you. In the weakness of your life God want’s you to listen to Holy Spirit that God gave you. (2 Cor 12:9) God says “ My grace is sufficient for you, for my strength is made perfect in weakness“. What is strength? Holy Spirit is strength. God deposited His Spirit in us so that when we grow weak and weary Holy Spirit would move within us empowering us to do the things that we were not able to do in our weaknesses. Christ doesn’t want us to be mastered by anything but Him. Christ has bought us with price so that we can live in Him and for Him.
“It’s true that our freedom allows us to do anything, but that doesn’t mean that everything we do is good for us. I’m free to do as I choose, but I choose to never be enslaved to anything.”
1 Corinthians 6:12 TPT
In the end, the obvious answer is, yes, masturbation is a sin if it entails lust. But even if it doesn’t include lust, I advise against it as it can lead to other sinful behaviors, such as self-centeredness and the lack of self-control. On this, I’d err on the side of caution.
Question to Consider
Do you agree with this advice regarding masturbation? If not, what good do you think can come from masturbation? You can comment in the section below and share your thoughts in it.